4 Holiday Relationship Dos and Don’ts With Kamie Crawford

The SI Swimsuit model and television personality shares her tips for meeting a partner’s family during the holidays.

Kamie Crawford.Bonnie Nichoalds

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When it comes to relationship advice, we know exactly who to turn to in times of need: two-time SI Swimsuit model Kamie Crawford, who is somewhat of an expert on the subject. 

The 31-year-old serves as the host of MTV’s Are You The One?, and cohost of the network’s Catfish: The TV Show. Crawford is also the host of her own podcast, Relationsh*t With Kamie Crawford, in which she dishes out relationship advice. So, to put it simply, the former Miss Teen USA is an authority when it comes to matters of the heart.

As part of our 12 Days of Swimsuit series, we chatted with Crawford to get her advice on how to be on your best behavior while meeting your boo’s family for the first time during the holidays.

Don’t show up empty handed

Always bring a hostess gift, holiday season or not, says Crawford. Make a great first impression by bringing along a nice candle, bottle of wine or a tasty treat.

“I’m a firm believer in always showing up with something when coming over to someone’s home for the first time, or even the first time in a long time, but especially when there’s a special holiday event or moment happening in the host’s life,” she says.

Do your research

This might seem like a no-brainer, but make sure you know who you’re meeting ahead of time, Crawford advises. Learn everyone’s names and a little bit about each person before Christmas Eve dinner begins.

“Knowing someone’s name can make them feel very special and seen,” Crawford says. “So try to learn the basics before you arrive!”

And when it comes to topics of conversation with Aunt Barb, stick to fundamentals like where you grew up, where you went to school and other essential background that allows your partner’s family members to get to know you.

“Those conversations usually snowball into more detailed conversations and you can usually reciprocate the questions which keeps things flowing nicely,” Crawford adds. “Stay away from conversations about politics or religion for a first meeting unless you’re absolutely sure your affiliations are aligned. Nothing kills the mood faster than finding out that you’re surrounded by people who you fundamentally disagree with or are offended by. Let’s keep it cute or put it on mute... for now.”

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Don’t be on your phone all night

You’re there to meet the family, so be engaged! Participate in conversations and enjoy your partner’s seasonal traditions. Don’t start scrolling through Instagram during any lulls in conversation, no matter how badly you want to check that notification.

“Most of us use our phones as security blankets during awkward situations and you might feel tempted to bring it out if conversations run dry—but don’t,” Crawford says. “Hopefully you’re dating someone who makes you feel comfortable and included, but in the event that Grandpa Bill is sharing his war story for the 500th time, try to stay engaged and interested.”

Do be yourself

Ultimately, the most important thing when meeting your partner’s family is to simply be yourself. When it comes to your outfit, Crawford suggests wearing something simple, yet comfortable, like jeans and an off-the-shoulder sweater top or sweater dress. Wear your makeup and style your hair as you usually would so you feel confident.

“At the end of the day, first impressions are important, but your relationship with your partner is more important than anyone else’s opinion,” she reminds. “Stay connected with your partner. Stay focused on your feelings for each other and everything else will fall into place. Their family is going to love you, but if it takes them a little longer to warm up, that’s O.K. Your partner loves you and that’s what really matters.”

For more relationship advice, tune in to Crawford’s podcast, available on all streaming platforms. 

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